RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE PROBLEMS AND SOLUTIONS (3)

IMPROVING YOUR RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION.

A. ENHANCING COMMUNICATION.

1. Remove all distractions when trying to communicate: turn the TV or radio off; if it's not convenient to discuss now then advice your partner and provide a time.

2. Do not speak while your parter is speaking - Always wait until your partner has finished talking and then, if unsure or upset, summarise back and check for accuracy before you speak in reply.

3. Do not use blaming and labeling as lazy, uncaring etc., but rather focus on the problem behaviours. Identifying specific difficulties provides more of an opportunity for future changes.

4. Build your partner up and use encouraging words when speaking - Always look for positive ways to discuss things and attempt to phrase things in ways that, while honest, also aim to build your partner up with encouragement instead of putting him or her down.

B. PROBLEM SOLVING: GENERATING NEW EFFECTIVE SOLUTIONS.

1. Break down big problems into smaller ones and only solve one at a time.

2. Think of all possible solutions before choosing the one you will use.

3. Involve your partner and work as a team.

4. Remember to focus on the positive and lear from each situation.

C. PROMOTING PARTNER SUPPORT.

1. Take time out to identify what your needs for support are - what it is your partner can do or be to  assist you feel more supported in the relationship.

2. Communicate clearly to your partner your expectations and check understanding.

3. Be forgiving and patient as humans aren't perfect

D. INCREASING QUALITY  TIME AND ENJOYABLE SHARED EXPERIENCES.

1.  Plan regular quality times.

2. Make more time for enjoyable shared experiences; start developing a list of activities you can try together. Review them so that, through trial and error, you will begin to develop more enjoyable activities you can participate in together.   (psychology.org.au)

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